The Bruise We Give Ourselves With ‘Compromise’.
(for the ones who inflict wound upon their own heart)

Why do we make compromises with ourselves and our life??  Are we really happy about it when we make it?? If affirmative, then all our pursuit to achieve happiness seems to be in vain and pretentious because technically a compromise with oneself is just another word for settling down for something less and not wished for. Personally I hate to make any and even if I convince myself to agree upon one, later I just wonder why I pushed myself into it. Apparently I care for other’s happiness more than mine. Does this happen with everyone? I turned to my friends to help me out with their opinion. Some made compromises so that they could have a better future. Their present was not in good shape and they struck a compromise with their life believing that their future will be fine because of these compromises. There were few who chose to compromise because they felt that the situations were too strong to stand up for what they wanted. They had to compromise because they had no other option left. What was curious is that whereas the Martians struck the C-factor keeping the practical real-life considerations in mind, the Venusians were emotionally occupied while they did so. Regardless of the gender, is it really necessary to make compromises to move on in life??

If you have realized it, however appropriate it may seem in the present and have hopes for the future, it is never an easy task to make a compromise with yourself and your life. You have to lure yourself into believing that it’s the best you can offer to make yourself positive about the future and the repercussions will be something to look forward to. But the flip-side: Who can guarantee for a happy future? It is not about losing hopes for future or being a pessimist but a simple fact we turn a blind-eye to while striking ourselves with a compromise. The truth: The future is as unpredictable as the weather these days. Both can crack up when you think nothing can go wrong. And then we think of all the compromises we made to reach there. That is painful.

When there is no choice and we make compromises, a situation where we are left hapless by the fate. There are two kinds of people involved in this situation. The ones who are weak and pessimists and choose to accept the defeat without even trying to fight back and settle with a compromise. The other half who are vehement warriors but get defeated by the mightier forces, like fate, make ‘adjustments’ but never compromise with what they want.

Love. Another reason to deal a compromise. Everyone on this earth, love or like someone so much that we overlook what makes us happy or what is appropriate for us?? What is the penalty of disdaining your wishes and true desires to keep your love alive? How far is it okay to ‘compromise’ with and often leave ourselves miserable in the end? This is the most painful compromise one makes. I am not being judgmental here but I have reasons. This kind of compromise is on the cost of your present and future. You make it for the sake of somebody else and the stake might involve you being left hurt in the end. I think true love never demands compromise but brings out adjustments spontaneously. You adjust without compromising on what you want and both the ends meet smoothly. By adjustment we mean moving 3 or 4 steps instead of 5, unlike a compromise where we decide not to move a single step because our love unfairly demands a stand-still.

So here is a sum up. Life is never complicated from the beginning. The problem begins with our choices and our inability to convert them into the right decisions. The compromises we make to pacify the situations, everything piles up to a great baggage which we see people lugging around.  Love and appreciate yourself because no one can do it better than you yourself. Be a warrior and learn to struggle for what you want and you can justify. You may want to adjust but never compromise with your life and what you wish for. Granted or not, it will be decided not by you but the Fate.  You won’t realize the toll you take on yourself until you become conscious of what you have been missing in the ‘real’ you or maybe lose what u wanted while making the compromise-deal. Making adjustments might be a little more difficult but then the incentives are better, the greatest would be the having everybody around you happy without disregarding anybody’s choices.

-anouk