The Bruise We Give Ourselves With ‘Compromise’.
(for the ones who inflict wound upon their own heart)
(for the ones who inflict wound upon their own heart)
Why do we make compromises with
ourselves and our life?? Are we really
happy about it when we make it?? If affirmative, then all our pursuit to
achieve happiness seems to be in vain and pretentious because technically a
compromise with oneself is just another word for settling down for something
less and not wished for. Personally I hate to make any and even if I convince myself
to agree upon one, later I just wonder why I pushed myself into it. Apparently I
care for other’s happiness more than mine. Does this happen with everyone? I
turned to my friends to help me out with their opinion. Some made compromises
so that they could have a better future. Their present was not in good shape
and they struck a compromise with their life believing that their future will
be fine because of these compromises. There were few who chose to compromise
because they felt that the situations were too strong to stand up for what they
wanted. They had to compromise because they had no other option left. What was
curious is that whereas the Martians struck the C-factor keeping the practical
real-life considerations in mind, the Venusians were emotionally occupied while
they did so. Regardless of the gender, is it really necessary to make
compromises to move on in life??
If you have realized it, however appropriate it may seem in the present and have hopes for the future, it is never an
easy task to make a compromise with yourself and your life. You have to lure
yourself into believing that it’s the best you can offer to make yourself
positive about the future and the repercussions will be something to look
forward to. But the flip-side: Who can guarantee
for a happy future? It is not about losing hopes for future or being a
pessimist but a simple fact we turn a blind-eye to while striking ourselves
with a compromise. The truth: The future is as unpredictable as the weather
these days. Both can crack up when you think nothing can go wrong. And then we
think of all the compromises we made to reach there. That is painful.
When there is no choice and we
make compromises, a situation where we are left hapless by the fate. There are
two kinds of people involved in this situation. The ones who are weak and
pessimists and choose to accept the defeat without even trying to fight back and
settle with a compromise. The other half who are vehement warriors but get
defeated by the mightier forces, like fate, make ‘adjustments’ but never compromise with
what they want.
Love. Another reason to deal a compromise.
Everyone on this earth, love or like someone so much that we overlook what makes us
happy or what is appropriate for us?? What is the penalty of disdaining your wishes
and true desires to keep your love alive? How far is it okay to ‘compromise’
with and often leave ourselves miserable in the end? This is the most painful
compromise one makes. I am not being judgmental here but I have reasons. This
kind of compromise is on the cost of your present and future. You make it for
the sake of somebody else and the stake might involve you being left hurt in the end. I
think true love never demands compromise but brings out adjustments
spontaneously. You adjust without compromising on what you want and both the ends
meet smoothly. By adjustment we mean moving 3 or
4 steps instead of 5, unlike a compromise where we decide not to move a single
step because our love unfairly demands a stand-still.
So here is a sum up. Life is
never complicated from the beginning. The problem begins with our choices and
our inability to convert them into the right decisions. The compromises we make to
pacify the situations, everything piles up to a great baggage which we see
people lugging around. Love and
appreciate yourself because no one can do it better than you yourself. Be a
warrior and learn to struggle for what you want and you can justify. You may
want to adjust but never compromise with your life and what you wish for. Granted
or not, it will be decided not by you but the Fate. You won’t realize the toll you take on
yourself until you become conscious of what you have been missing in the ‘real’
you or maybe lose what u wanted while making the compromise-deal. Making adjustments might be a little more
difficult but then the incentives are better, the greatest would be the having
everybody around you happy without disregarding anybody’s choices.
-anouk
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